We celebrated our 13th wedding anniversary yesterday and when I looked up the symbol for the 13th wedding anniversary, it was lace. And I loved that.
Lace with all it’s beauty. Delicate, complicated yet strong…stemmed from a process of knotting, threading, weaving, tangling. I just think it is such a great representation of marriage. An intertwining of two people, two imperfect people. That despite all the knots and threads, there is a beautiful finished work. Those knots and tangles; they are all part of the process and what makes each piece of lace different and so, so beautiful.
Its delicate however and needs care.
Because marriage isn’t plain sailing, it takes work and graft. It takes putting someone else needs before your own, it takes a lot of self sacrifice and loving and forgiving. I don’t know how that looks in your marriage but in mine there are all these knots we’ve had to work through that have made our life together better and more unified; the process of working towards that final pattern. Not easy and hard to confront at times, but necessary none the less.
In this life of social media so many things are pushed into the conversation that would have been held more closely before. Analysed, scrutinised and bantered over. And in many ways I love a good conversation about relationships, about connections and about the nitty gritty of life with someone you love…conversation is a good and healthy thing. But some things are worth protecting. What do you think? Is marriage up for discussion? Are there any lines on what we discuss?
The lovely Aly Harte has a brilliant post on the dangers of putting your kids online…another whole can of worms on what we share! Maybe everything is up for debate……